Tanveer Naseer

Leadership Coach, Speaker, and Writer

Are You Waiting For Permission to Grow?

The following is a guest post by Darcy Eikenberg.

“We’ve cut back on our training—nothing I can do about that.”

“Our conference budgets have been cut, so it’ll be hard for me to stay current.”

“My manager doesn’t know any more than I do—how am I going to grow?”

Heard those comments in your workplace lately? If so, you’re not alone. One of the biggest laments uncovered in survey after survey is that the current lack of learning and development programs is a strong contributor to disengagement.

Makes sense, right? After all, you’re human. You want to learn, grow, and increase your professional contribution—not sit there like a lump. You want to feel you’re making a difference, using all of your abilities and talents. You want to be prepared for the future world of work—whatever that will be.

So why are you waiting for permission to grow?

It’s a losing game to wait for your boss/your CEO/your organization to change in order to accelerate your own learning and development. Sure, it would be great if all leaders recognized that coaching, teaching and training are investments, not expenses, but until then, it’s time for you to take control.

Here are three simple actions you can take right now. Try one and create dramatic changes in your career and your overall growth.

1. Learn from Your Colleagues
The richest source of fresh information and insights is often the one most overlooked—your coworkers.

What does someone else know or do well that you want to do, too? An expertise exchange is an easy way to put that person’s knowledge into your toolbox—and build working relationships, too.

Think about what you’re ready to learn. Then pay attention to who comes to mind as a great example of that talent, and invite them to connect:

  • “Amy, I’d like to strengthen my negotiation skills, and you do this really well. Would you be open to having lunch with me and letting me pick your brain about your thought processes and preparation steps?
  • “Greg, your presentations are always impressive, and I’d love to improve my own. Could we schedule a call and talk more about what you do behind the scenes to make these work so well?”

In addition, you might notice broader topics just ripe for group learning. Do yourself and others a favor—organize a lunch, Google video hangout, or conference call on the subject.

  • “Here in marketing, we keep wondering about the real, everyday challenges of our colleagues in the customer service department. Let’s have lunch with a couple CS people and hear their perspectives. I’ll invite Sarah—who do you want to include?”
  • “Looks like we’re not having the all-hands meeting this year. Let’s do a mini-version with a few of us over a brown bag lunch and hear what’s hot in each group.”

Remember, people are typically flattered to be asked to offer their expertise or ideas. A specific invitation makes it easy for them to share and for you to learn. Your colleagues have loads to share with each other—and you may learn something, too.

2. Learn from the Freebies
When budgets are tight, the tight get creative. We live in a unique time when there are millions of ways to accelerate our knowledge, all for free.

  • Books. Remember them? It’s a myth to say that no one reads books anymore. Smart people still do. One undervalued resource is your public library. Many libraries today have online catalogues where you search for the book you want, request it online, and have it delivered to your local branch or download the ebook directly to your reader. It’s a free way to access different ideas—without the financial investment and the bedside clutter.
  • Trade magazines. What periodicals cover your industry or profession? Many offer free subscriptions just for signing up and providing your demographic information. This helps the magazine show higher value to advertisers, and gets you access to the publication at no charge.
  • Online tools. iTunesU has university-level courses on almost any topic, and YouTube continues to be a broad source for learning how to do almost anything (just consider the source carefully as you evaluate its advice.)

Finally, don’t overlook the free resources within your own company. What online learning tools are hanging out in a learning management system (LMS), database, or corporate intranet? What tuition reimbursement or corporate memberships to professional groups are already in place? Self-driven learning tools may already exist but often lack promotion to let you know they’re out there. Ask your HR resource to point you to the right place. (And if you discover something great, tell others!)

3. Learn to Invest in Yourself
Not getting enough growth from these sources? Need to make a giant leap? It’s time to invest in the hottest asset around—you.

Now is the time to invest in your own knowledge, your confidence, your talents, and your character. Now is the time to change your expectations about who is responsible for your growth and learning (and psst—it’s not your boss, your department, or your company.)

It’s no longer smart to be penny-wise and pound-foolish when it comes to building your own professional assets. Do you spend $80 a month on cable TV; yet balk at paying $37 to attend professional luncheon that yields valuable contacts and up-to-date insights? Maybe you work with a personal trainer at the gym to strengthen your muscles—why not work with a personal coach to strengthen your career?

Avoid the mindset that your career development should happen organically and that you can figure out all the answers yourself. Your house or car needs experts to keep them running smoothly; your professional self demands the same.

Those that invest in themselves will find it pay off not only now, but throughout their life. No matter what lies ahead for our economy and our world, no one can take your growth away from you. The investments you make in yourself create returns much larger than any spreadsheet can ever hold.

Darcy Eikenberg, ACC, is a leadership and workplace coach.  She is also the author of Bring Your Superpowers to Work: Your Guide to More Clarity, Confidence & Control. To learn more about Darcy and her book, visit her website RedCapeRevolution.com.

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  1. On May 1st, 2012 at 12:41 PM gregblencoe said:


    This is a great reminder to continue to pursue professional growth even if it doesn't come from employers.

    I think I once heard Tony Robbins say something like it's not about resources, it's about resourcefulness. This post and the numerous good examples in it remind me of this.

    Even if we work for somebody else, I believe it's best to have the mentality that we are the CEO of our own company. These days, people are changing jobs much more than in the past. Therefore, it makes sense to take control and pursue professional development on our own if needed.

    Thanks for sharing these valuable tips!

  2. On May 1st, 2012 at 7:36 PM Darcy Eikenberg, ACC said:

    Thanks, Greg! I like the quote about resourcefulness vs. resources. Resources can be limited, but our resourcefulness is always available. Thanks for sharing!


  3. On May 1st, 2012 at 9:44 PM Tanveer Naseer said:

    Absolutely, Greg. Unfortunately, most of us tend to convince ourselves that – without the support of our bosses or upper management – we won't have the opportunities to build our skills and career.

    However, as Darcy points out in her piece, there are numerous means available to us to take control of our professional development. Thankfully, information is no longer gated; now we just have to commit ourselves to taking advantage of these opportunities.

    Thanks again Greg for adding your thoughts to the discussion.

  4. On May 1st, 2012 at 12:55 PM Charles David said:

    I think, in order for you to grow you should suffer failure and mistakes in life because in this way you learn from your mistakes and makes you a better person. And also for you to grow with success and proud of yourself. We can't avoid obstacles and hurdles because this is a part of our life. We should jump for this in order for us to get pass of this kind of trials.

  5. On May 1st, 2012 at 7:38 PM Darcy Eikenberg, ACC said:

    Interesting how we work so hard to avoid failure and mistakes, isn't it Charles? I often tell clients, especially those moving into new leadership positions, to expect a mistake somewhere along the way, and when it comes, simply say "Oh, there you are–I've been waiting for you!" Then move on and recover, since that's what it's all about! I worry when we're so focused on making NO mistakes!!

    Thanks for reading.


  6. On May 1st, 2012 at 8:50 PM Harvey Baker said:

    In order to grow you have to invest in yourself. Don't wait for someone to give you permission. Thanks for the tips!

  7. On May 2nd, 2012 at 7:12 AM Jon Mertz said:

    Wonderful point. There are so many resources, locally, to continue to learn and grow from… They can be breakfast group or lunch groups. We just need to engage them and then be open to learning. Simply learning is an important lesson to use! Thanks! Jon

  8. On May 7th, 2012 at 4:34 AM Mike said:

    I like the idea that you have given about investing in our own selves. I also think most of companies management don't have time to train us. We should take an initiative ourselves and learn and read books that can help us in the career. As this is the information age, most of the information we need to grow is on the Internet.

  9. On May 7th, 2012 at 9:49 PM PEEJAY said:

    Hi Darcy

    This is a great post and idea….
    I got much to learn and it's very true that reading really helps…..
    I think all we want to know and learn is all in the web…

    For me, I grow my self and my learning by just reading and I like to read blogs/post/article that are relevant to what I want to learn..

    Thank you so much for this great post and tips….

  10. On May 11th, 2012 at 8:05 AM Nichole Kellerman said:

    What I also do is to learn from the mistakes I've done in the past and do a better one. I think this is a common way to grow also.

  11. On June 20th, 2012 at 3:22 PM Bob said:

    I have worked for many companies and only some big companies invest in training. If a person is in a company that doesn't invest in training, then we should learn by ourselves through books etc. If we don't train ourselves, it will be bad for our careers. 🙂

  12. On June 27th, 2012 at 4:00 AM cristin smith said:

    You have mention really good points. even I agree we should take initiative by ourselves to improve instead of waiting for some one to help us. Now day learning become easy become of evolution of internet and we must utilized available platform.

  13. On August 8th, 2012 at 12:48 AM gregorypeter said:

    You have shared a very interesting point, even I have learned a lot from books and web and I have saved a lot of money by not going to any tutor or classes. I think we can learn everything, the only thing we need is the dedication towards it.

  14. On December 15th, 2012 at 3:17 AM Daniel Lobo said:

    Dedication towards something always help no matter what ever you want to learn/achieve… Learning from books, websites are very useful as it not only teaches you something but also give you the satisfaction factor that you learned something on your own

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